My Miscarriage Story: The Storm of 2013
Trigger warning: October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month and is a time that I always think about my baby that I never knew. This post contains a potentially graphic experience, do not read if you are sensitive to infant loss. My miscarriage story.
Miscarriages are rarely explored and a sore subject to say the least. It’s painful to talk about and the feelings associated with having a miscarriage bare great weight on mothers-to-be. The feelings of guilt, grief, sorrow, anger, sadness can hit all at once making it difficult to cope. So, many just don’t talk about it. Many just don’t know what to say. In this post, I’ll be sharing my personal story and how you can cope after losing a baby.
My Hospital Bag Checklist (from a third-time Mama)
I’m currently 32 weeks pregnant and I cannot believe I’ll soon be a mom of 3 boys! The time has gone by so fast and I’ve been behind on preparing for this baby. Between my 4-year-old starting preschool and my 2-year-old being, well, a 2-year-old, it’s been life in the fast lane. Making a hospital bag checklist has been the last thing on my mind but as time approaches delivery, I knew I needed to get it done.
When I packed my hospital bag the first time around, I was completely over-prepared . I literally brought anything I thought I would need. I labored for 18 hours with Optimus and spent an hour or two in the labor room after he was born. Then when I transferred from the labor room to a mom/baby room, I realized I brought too many things. My parents and husband had to lug suitcases and random things to my other room which was much smaller.
When I packed my hospital bag the second time around, I was slightly under-prepared . I woke up to contractions at 6am and Bumblebee was born by c-section at 9am. I wasn’t prepared for a c-section as far as my hospital bag. My parents and husband would bring me things from home that I either forgot or things that I didn’t realize I needed.
This time around, I’ll have it just right.
“If her kids are that close together and she wants a shower, she is selfish, she has everything already so why does she need a shower?”
As I was looking up ideas for having a third baby shower (sprinkle) for baby number three, 80% of the comments I read were full of judgement and negativity. I never realized that it was so taboo or “not good etiquette” to have a third baby shower. I’m almost 30 weeks pregnant and it’s that time to start thinking about how I want to celebrate my third baby. Naturally, you celebrate with a baby shower. But having THIRD baby shower?
Let me clear a few things before you say “did she really just say that?” Breastfeeding is an extremely personal decision. What you feel is the best choice for you and your child is way more important than trying to keep up with the social norm or in this case, going against the social norm. While we all should know that “breast is best”, there are LOTS of times when it just doesn’t work out, and that’s okay. I am not here to push you into extended breastfeeding, nor judge you if you chose not to. I am simply here to provide support, facts, humor and encouragement in your nursing journey.
Tips and Tricks to Surviving Your First Trimester of Pregnancy with Kids
First of all, CONGRATULATIONS mama! Welcoming a new edition to the family is beautiful thing. Our bodies are amazing and go through so many changes. If you’ve done this before, you’re probably thinking that you’d be used to the symptoms. But even if this isn’t your first rodeo, I guarantee you’ll come across something new. If this is your first pregnancy, you probably have TONS of questions. This will be my fourth time going through the first trimester and I’ve been taking notes for you. So grab a comfy seat and enjoy!
The first trimester of pregnancy can be so difficult in itself. Full of highs and lows, symptoms can range from nausea to extreme fatigue to constipation, heartburn and indigestion. I mean, the list can go on and on amiright? Finding ways to deal with all of these unwanted symptoms can be difficult, especially if you have other children to tend to. I have put together a list of pregnancy must-haves and must-dos that will help you in surviving your first trimester because, mama, I’ve been there and I feel you.